Saturday, January 31, 2009
A Community of Lesbians!
Friday, January 30, 2009
Sorrow: Ted Haggard Is Stuck! How Can We Help?
I heard Ted say two things:
1. He was told by one therapist that he was a heterosexual "with issues";
2. He was told by another therapist that he was a heterosexual with homosexual tendencies.
The man has had "feelings" or "homosexual tendencies since he was in high school (if not before). He has had sex with multiple male partners--with or without the substance.
Being a "homosexual" is not based upon acting upon such feelings. Feeling attraction to anyone physically, emotionally, relationally, spiritually, intellectually, and other intuitive impulse is what it means to be who we are, gay or straight. This is simply how God made us to be.
I agree with Andrew Sullivan: once Haggard is at rest with who he is, by God's own hand and design, then he will be able to live life fully. Until then, he will continue to live this contorted, lying life, because he is trying to be something he is clearly not.
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pace!
B
Thursday, January 29, 2009
New Mexico: The Next Frontier for Domestic Partnership (But Don't Call It Marriage)
Here is what is intriguing about this wedge issue, e.g., marriage vs. domestic partnership. Those who talk about marriage and its timelessness are factually and historically wrong in their hopes and dreams that marriage is forever. The definition of "marriage" is context dependent. By that, I mean that marriage changes in each cultural context and time. The concept of what we call "marriage" has changed, is changing, and will forever change depending upon the people who call it "marriage." There is nothing objective and outside of cultural constructs that makes marriage the same thing throughout time.
If this culture--American middle class culture--wants to now include people who are LBTGQ as part of the body of people who want to marry, well, so be it. Voila! You may now kiss one another.
Pace!
B
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Next Prime MInister of Iceland: A Woman Who Happens To Be a Lesbian!
This is great! In celebrating the various elected officials in office, pre-Harvey Milk to today's politicians serving in a variety of elected positions, news is coming from Iceland that the next Prime Minister is likely to be a woman who happens to be a lesbian. Johanna Sigurdardottir, the nation's 66 y.o. social affairs minister, is the pick of the Social Democratic Alliance Party to lead an interim government.
Washington State: All BUT "I Do"
Click here to the site.
So let's start from the outside and go inward to the Midwest.
Pace! B
Monday, January 26, 2009
In Israel, 20,000 gay families raising children
For a land that is about the size of New Jersey, give or take the West Bank and Gaza strip, and a land where the desert covers great swaths of land, this seems a rather sizable number of people.
And these are the ones who report that they are gay, lesbian, bi, or trans, and raising children. What is the number when we include those who are not self-identifying? Obviously, larger.
My hunch: same thing here in the States.
Click here for more.
Cool.
Pace!
Brett
Prayers for Bobby
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Ted Haggard...Again!
If God made you gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, or queer-expressing, then that's simply how God made you.
Period.
One of the obvious failures of any reparative therapy project is that it is built and developed on a lie: that you can change how God made you. A straight person cannot be turned and re-made into a gay person. A gay person cannot be turned and re-made into a straight person. It just simply isn't how God created us to be: chameleons may change due to their environment, but such is not the case for straights and gays.
Proof of this? Ted Haggard.
Apparently Ted Haggard has also been living a lie. Ted has had more than one, um, relationship with another man.
This would be the Rev. Ted Haggard.
The evangelical Ted Haggard who ran a large mega-church of 10,000 members and was spiritual guru to FORMER President George W. Bush.
The one who is addicted to drugs.
That one.
Click here for more.
It is time to stop shaming people because they are simply LGBTQ and let us all celebrate who God made us to be.
Pace!
B
It's the Little Things That Count
Are you serious?
Not only is it disturbing re: lesbian couples (and the same for gay, bisexual, or trans no less), but what if someone is a single parent and a friend wanted to come along? They would be turned down too?
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We who are LGBTQ couples raising kids are discriminated daily in the RDU area.
It is time to change.
Pace!
B
Friday, January 23, 2009
Sad Sam
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Went to Obama Inauguration: Jan. 19, 2009
Went to the Inauguration, I did!
Friday, January 16, 2009
Resuscitating Civil Rights Commission
AS the country prepares to enter the Obama era, anxiety over the legal status and rights of gays and lesbians is growing. Barack Obama’s invitation to the Rev. Rick Warren, an evangelical pastor who opposes same-sex marriage, to give the invocation at his inauguration comes just as the hit movie “Milk” reminds us of the gay rights activism of the 1970s. Supporters of gay rights wonder if the California Supreme Court might soon confirm the legitimacy of Proposition 8, passed by state voters in November, which declares same-sex marriage illegal — leaving them no alternative but to take to the streets.
To help resolve the issue of gay rights, President-elect Obama should abolish the now moribund Commission on Civil Rights and replace it with a new commission that would address the rights of many groups, including gays.Likewise, the Commission could help with gays in military service, gays and hate crimes bills, and gays and discrimination in the work place.
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We'll take all the help we can get in addressing the issue, but also acting on these issues...yes?
Pace!
B
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Speaking Up and Being Out: The Politics of Being LGBTQ
In 2000, voters passed Proposition 22, enacting a law stipulating that marriage is a heterosexual relationship. Last May, California's Supreme Court struck down the law on the ground that there is no "compelling state interest" in not recognizing same-sex marriages under the constitutional clause guaranteeing "equal protection" of the laws. Opponents of same-sex marriage quickly gathered sufficient signatures to place on the November ballot the amendment to the constitution.
The breadth and depth of California's toleration regarding sexual lifestyles refute the worry that gays are a vulnerable minority menaced by majoritarian tyranny. Proposition 8 merely restored to California law the ancient and nearly universal definition of marriage, a definition resoundingly endorsed by the U.S. Congress (85 to 14 in the Senate, 342 to 67 in the House) and written into the laws of 47 other states. California advocates of erasing the right to same-sex domestic partnerships could not even get sufficient signatures to put their measure on the November ballot.
Just eight years ago, Proposition 22 was passed, 61.4 to 38.6 percent. The much narrower victory of Proposition 8 suggests that minds are moving toward toleration of same-sex marriage. If advocates of that have the patience required by democratic persuasion, California's ongoing conversation may end as they hope. If, however, the conversation is truncated, as Brown urges, by judicial fiat, the argument will become as embittered as the argument about abortion has been by judicial highhandedness.
Click here for more.
Pace!
B
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
It is time!
Why?
Here's the reason: Given that Mr. Obama has, in the past, supported the rights of LGBTQ people to marry, and given that Mr. Obama has started to hire many LGBTQ people in his administration outside of places and offices like AIDS issues, e.g., including State Department, etc., and given that Mr. Obama has Rev. Robinson praying along with Rick Warren, it appears that it is time for the following:
* Overturning the DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act), foolishly passed by Congress and signed by President Clinton;
* Overturning DADT (Don't Ask Don't Tell) in the military services;
* Signing a hate-crime bill that includes and covers people who are LGBTQ;
* Signing a non-discrimination in employment bill that protects LGBTQ people;
And last but not least: gay marriage. It is time for the federal government to follow up and do what state governments are starting to do, especially in New England and the West Coast areas: provide LGBTQ couples the right to marry or be in civil union.
Busy time.
But it is time.
Long past time.
It is time.
Pace!
B
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Illinois Politician Supports Gay Marriage...and the Politician's Name is Obama!
Quote For The Day
"I favor legalizing same-sex marriages, and would fight efforts to prohibit such marriages," - Barack Obama, to the Windy City Times in Chicago, in 1996.
Some context from the emailed press release:
During the final weeks of the presidential campaign last fall, several media outlets contacted Windy City Times because of an old internet story from the 1996 Illinois state Senate race. In that campaign, Outlines newspaper reported that 13th District candidate Barack Obama supported gay marriage. Reporters wanted to know what exactly Obama had said. Outlines summarized the results in that 1996 article by Trudy Ring, but did not list exact answers to questions. In that article Outlines did note that Obama was a supporter of same-sex marriage and that article was never challenged or corrected by Obama. Just recently, the original Outlines and IMPACT surveys were found in the newspaper's archives.
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I am not ignorant in believing that Obama wouldn't change his tune. Being electable in this country for straight politicians means you cannot support gay marriage: just ask Ms. Clinton.
Wiley politician, Mr. Obama thou art!
Pace!
B
Hey Eugene! Nice Going!
This morning's dailykos.com had the best line of the day: since Robinson prays first, God hears Robinson's prayer over Warren. And there is a group raising money for every second that Warren prays for LGBTQ concerns/issues:
Meanwhile we're thrilled that Rev. Gene Robinson is kicking off the inaugural festivities on Sunday, meaning that his blessing trumps all the others because it's the first one God will hear. At the same time, we're still planning to protest Rick Warren's two minutes of infamy by supporting the grassroots Rick-A-Thon:
Let's join the Rick-A-Thon!The purpose of the Rick-A-Thon is to turn Rick Warren’s anti-equality stance into positive change for LGBT people. Every second that Warren stands at the podium, he will be raising money to advance LGBT civil rights.
Pace!
B
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Gender Benders
I am watching a "Discovery" channel special on Thomas Beattie, the man who was a pregnant man. We also saw a performance of "The Young Ladies of..." by Taylor Mac, a New York performing artist who helps us question what it means to test boundaries of what is normal, what are the borders, what it means to be a man, a woman. Thomas is wearing a shirt on him that says "Define Normal." Taylor Mac asked the same question: what does it mean to be a man or woman? He was dressed in some ways as a woman but is clearly a man.
This leads to questions like the following: what is a man? A woman? Marriage? Family?
Courage is what I see these two people and their families exhibiting.
Pace! B
Persistence Works: Obama Must Address Warren
Zane rightly understands that we who are LGBTQ people live with discrimination daily. He also believes that Obama has an opportunity to address such discrimination and bigotry.
He ends the article with this affirmation:
Being discriminated against, however, is like being pregnant: Either you are or you aren't. Can we expect people to quietly accept legalized inequality? Would you?
Officially, Obama says he supports civil unions but does not support gay marriage. Considering his other progressive policies, I find it hard to believe that position is anything other than a political expedient.
Given the nation's myriad problems, tackling the divisive issue of same-sex marriage immediately would be counterproductive. If Obama wants to deliver on his message of change and hope, he must eventually find a way to summon our better angels so that we can overcome this prejudice. History will little note his invitation to Warren, but it will long remember how he handles this moral issue.
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Pace!
B
Friday, January 9, 2009
Rep. Barney Frank: Coverboy
On The Advocate, the New York Times Magazine, and with an inside story in the latest New Yorker (article by Jeffrey Toobin), I keep on running into Rep. Barney Frank. He's been on CNN, MSNBC, Fox, etc.
In other words, he is making the rounds.
He is outspoken about his place in the Congress; his coming out in the late '80s; his own "prediction" about the progress society will be making in over-turning DADT, non-discrimination of LGBTQ people in jobs, and a hate-crime bill. All that is missing is civil unions!
I remember Barney Frank speaking out in 2004 at Duke University, where he made a dramatic appeal for us to vote and not merely hold rallies. According to Frank, while rallies are great fun and emotionally intoxicating, they do little to change things. Frank wanted us to know and remember that what matters most are the votes in Congress. What matters in a democracy is the vote.
This also involves money. Watching the Prop. 8 campaign in CA, it was clear that money was important in the act of getting-out-the-vote machine, with the pro-Prop. 8 folks having much more money. Money does not necessarily buy an election, but makes it easier. Just ask the Obama folks.
In a discussion with others in the Presby. Church (USA) at a gathering of More Light Presbyterians, the issue of money came up: who has more money at their disposal in the upcoming amendment votes among Presbyteries: the conservative voices or the progressive voices? The conservative side of the debate has far more money, and a better machine in getting news out to its members than do the liberal/progressive side.
Care to bet who will win?
Money and voting: in a democracy, they go together like butter on bread.
This is the lesson for the day.
Pace!
B
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Stop in the Name of (Equal) Love!
There is a UCC (United Church of Christ) congregation in Ashland, OR who are doing what they do at First UCC Church of Asheville, NC: they are not marrying anyone--straight or gay--until everyone who wants to be wed can be married. This is all under the banner of "equal rights for all."
Power to them.
OR is close to okaying civil unions for LGBQT couples. NJ is close to marriage for LGBTQ couples, with other state in the New England area looking seriously at this possibility. Imagine the entire corner of one part of this country being pro-LGBTQ marriage, followed by the entire West Coast. Soon, well, you know, domino affect coming in from both sides of the country.
Click here for more.
Pace!
B
Monday, January 5, 2009
Harvey Milk High School
Two decades ago, Harvey Milk High School opened in Greenwich Village, NY. It has been and continues to be a sanctuary, a large "safe zone" for LGBTQ students and staff, along with straight allies. The need for such a high school is itself an indictment on many public and private schools, where being LGBTQ and out-straight allies may make someone a target of harassment. There was this moving statistic in the article from this morning's News and Observer (Raleigh, NC) that attracted my attention:
Last year the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network unveiled its "National School Climate Survey." Of the 6,200 gay middle and high school students surveyed, about 90 percent had been harassed and 60 percent said they felt unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation.
Hannah Devane, 17, a student at Harvey Milk, said mainstream schools failed her. She felt alienated and became so depressed, Devane said, she didn't get out of bed in the mornings. She stopped attending classes.
When Devane was 13, she heard about the Harvey Milk school in the news, and decided to ask her counselor to help her transfer.
"Coming here changed my life," she said. "Now I'm an A student."
My high school son has told me that, repeatedly in his classes, students are allowed to make derogatory comments re: LGBTQ people, e.g., fag or "that's so gay," but are only reprimanded when making racist or sexist comments by teachers.And this is in a progressive part of NC!?
Click here for more.
It is time to change.
Pace!
B
Friday, January 2, 2009
Mayor Sam Adams: Congrats!
Mayor Sam--billed as the Gay Mayor on towleroad.com--is now the first mayor of such a large metropolitan area who is openly gay. He brings with him a wealth of experience, knowledge, and energy for the position, having served as an assistant to a former Mayor, Vera Katz.
Click here for more.
Congrats, Mayor Sam!
Pace!
B