Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Triangle Mom 2 Mom: Meet Brett Webb-Mitchell, a Gay Dad!

Thanks to Stacy Chandler for the chance to be interviewed about being a gay dad in the Research Triangle:

A little from the article:

Q: What town do you live in, and what brought you here?

A: I was born in Brooklyn, NY, and during my childhood I lived in New Jersey and Oregon.  After living in many states, as well as living in London, England, for a year, my former wife, my children, and I moved to Chapel Hill when I was invited to teach at Duke University in 1993. 

Q: Tell us a little about yourself, and about your family. 

A: I wear many hats at the same time: I am a speaker and writer on a wide variety of topics, from working with people living with disabilities and faith communities and LGBTQ parenting to leading actual pilgrimages here and abroad. While I currently teach Ethics, Religions and the World, and English composition courses at NCCU, I've also been ordained and worked as a pastor in the Presbyterian Church (USA) for over 30 years. So I am a scholar-activist-pastor-pilgrim.

I was married to my best friend in my early 20s, and we are proud parents of two amazing young adults who live in Asheville and Wilmington. Currently, I've been in a partnered relationship for almost 19 years, and we live in Chapel Hill.
Q: Why did you decide to write the book “On Being a Gay Parent,” and why do you continue to maintain a blog of the same name now?

A: I wrote “On Being a Gay Parent” and maintain the blog because I was looking for such a book and blog when I came out of my big gay closet. I wanted a book that not only spoke to the issues of LGBTQ parenting, but also spoke respectively of faith communities. It should come as no surprise that since many churches have treated LGBTQ people as second-class citizens in God's realm, many LGBTQ continue to stay away from a church, though they may be people of deep faith.

Here's the link here:




Monday, August 18, 2014

Standing in the middle, not knowing what's coming next...

The best way of describing what is coming next for LGBTQ concerns/issues may be by describing what I once heard an ethicist observe in the middle of change: you don't know where you are in terms of the progress you've made, because you are standing in the middle of the change itself, without a read on where you've been necessarily, and not knowing necessarily what is the next step, or what is just over the horizon.  You are simply in the middle of it all, trying to figure it out, day by day, hoping that you are making progress, but never really knowing.

I am "there" with the ethicist, not knowing if I'm making progress or not in terms of LGBTQ issues re: parenting, marriage, and job discrimination. I am striving to go forward, but it is daily questioning and wondering and discerning where we've been, where we are, and where we are headed.

It is a pilgrimage.



Saturday, August 9, 2014

At the intersection of love and justice with Moral March and Equality NC.

I like intersection/intersectionality.

So I saw it "happen"--almost--when the Moral Monday March to the Polls and Equality NC celebrated the Fourth Circuit Court decision in Durham recently.


From the article:

Last month, I stood on the edge of a large crowd listening to the Rev. William Barber at the Moral March to the Polls rally, gathered at the CCB Plaza in downtown Durham. Even though parking was not convenient, a large throng had gathered together that late afternoon to renounce “VIVA” – North Carolina’s Voter Information Verification Act – and the other parts of HB 589 passed last year by the N.C. General Assembly.
Young and old, black and white, gay and straight, women and men, religious folks and nonreligious folks alike gathered as North Carolinians to say that the new laws crafted by state Republicans would suppress the vote from among the African-American and Hispanic-American community, the elderly and people living with disabilities, a Democratic voting constituency.

As the Moral March rally was drawing to a close, a crowd assembled down the street from the CCB Plaza at the nightspot Motorco. They were celebrating the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeal’s ruling that Virginia’s (and essentially North Carolina’s) constitutional amendment outlawing marriage equality by stating that marriage is solely between one man and one woman was unconstitutional under the 14th Amendment.
Many of us were veterans from the Amendment 1 struggle and couldn’t believe what we were hearing: After spending countless hours and millions of dollars, after canvassing the state with walks and talks, after creating radio ads and television commercials, this law that many had pointed to as hateful fell apart after two years and two months. But then again, the reason it fell apart was because of the power of love.

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Thursday, July 31, 2014

Current Events!

I always liked Current Events in elementary school.  I tried to bring off the "grid" stories that interested me even as a child.  I haven't changed.

Some stories off and on the grid/mainstream media, that interest me:

* Constitutional Court in Uganda is considering a ruling their tempered version of the "kill the gays" bill passed last year, with the influence of Scott Lively in constructing this hate-filled document; there's a petition against the anti-gay bill.

* The Sixth Circuit Court of Appeals is going to consider the anti-constitutionality of the anti-marriage equality amendments in various states in their region, from Michigan to Tennessee;

* Closer to home, a friend who has taken a rather public stand in being out in a Southern state is appearing solo because his partner or bf is fearful of being out, sure he would lose his job.  He probably would.  It is the South.



Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Next Steps in NC March Toward Being a Civlized State

After the initial hoopla of 4th Circuit Court decision, ruling that Amendment 1 to the NC constitution is, well, unconstitutional, the next step is being taken by the ACLU by showing that a few LGBTQ couples have a case showing the unconstitutionality of the amendment.

Here's a clip:

So we await the step shoe to drop, the next door to open, the next straw to break the camel's back of his amendment of hate.


Monday, July 28, 2014

Fourth Circuit Court Loves NC

The 4th Circuit Court, covering states from MD to SC, showed us some "love" today.  Well, actually they showed us some justice today.  Well, OK 2 out of 3 judges showed us that the 14th amendment provides equal protection under the law, including in the area of marriage, and that these states that amended their constitutions to outlaw such equal protection were in the wrong.

Of course there was a "stay", and now we will soon await for another appeals court (am I correct?) and the end point is the U.S. Supreme Court.

Will they hear this case or not?

Meanwhile, there are LOADS of places to read about this, but here's a hyperlink to begin.

What does it mean for Dean and I as a couple? Nothing, until there is proof that this is the law of the land.  And it isn't that yet.

If it does become law, then I am getting a kilt and wearing it proudly on my wedding day.



Monday, June 30, 2014

"Two Persons"

Here's a link to my latest blog posting on on the effect of the Authoritative Interpretation that makes possible my option of marrying an LGBTQ couple.

Here's the link: