Monday, June 30, 2014

"Two Persons"

Here's a link to my latest blog posting on on the effect of the Authoritative Interpretation that makes possible my option of marrying an LGBTQ couple.

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Sunday, June 29, 2014

Happy Wedding Day, Ryan and Matthew!

Wandering through the wedding section of the NYT this morning while watching "CBS Sunday Morning News," I bumped into this wedding announcement celebrating the wedding of Ryan and Matthew.  Now what stood out about this announcement was its so Presbyterian. Matthew is a Presbyterian, and is a candidate for ministry in the PCUSA. Even though our Constitution doesn't quite support this union (sigh), nonetheless, they're married in NY. We're hopeful that the Constitution of the PCUSA changes in the next two years to stay "two persons".

What was also nice was that the Rev. Abby Mohaupt, a Presbyterian minister, married them.  This is legl as of last week after my denomination changed the Authoritative Interpretation and voted that ministers or teaching elders have discretion to marry LGBTQ couples.

So Mazel Tov to Ryan, Matthew, Abby, and to the PCUSA!

Here's the link to the announcement:


Saturday, June 21, 2014

Amazed, delighted, thankful for the moves within the PCUSA

Well, we came late to the party of inclusion of people like me, the LBTQI community, but the Church finally came to a place of inclusion. Today, I am free to marry a same sex couple in a state where such marriages are legal. And sent back tot he Presbyterieis is a new wording of marriage, which includes the traditional one man one woman, but also "two people."

In reading some of the responses from the conservative voices in the Church, I'm a little taken aback, though I expected it. While it was painful to hear people argue on the floor of General Assembly we should study this again, one more time, I was also sad to read that such unions--like mine--would seem to be either an abomination (thanks Leviticus...helps a lot), or is simply not in line with the Gospel (at least according to a skewed reading of Paul, though Jesus never says anything).  It was these voices that I allowed to speak to me that pushed me deep into the closet and keep me there for the first 40 years of my life.

In the words of MLK, Jr., today I'm free at last, free at last, thank God all might, I'm free at last.

And thanks GA of the PCUSA.



Thursday, June 19, 2014

"You may now kiss one another"! Presbyterian Church (USA) Makes History: I can wed LGBTQ couples!

That about sums it up: today, the Presbyterian Church (USA) said that, at my discretion, I can wed same sex couples in states where it is allowed, including the DC area.

Here's the link:



Monday, June 16, 2014

PCUSA debating marriage equality

Hey!  Go to this link and watch what my denomination is saying and thinking and feeling (or not saying) today in Detroit during our General Assembly:

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Pax, B

Sunday, June 15, 2014

On Being a Gay Parent, Seven Years Later

I wrote the book On Being a Gay Parent seven years ago (or that's when it was published). This book was made possible by my kids Adrianne Webb-Mitchell and Parker. Published in 2007, still learning from it today. I wrote in the book that being a gay parent was "like improvisational performance art" because we are playing off of no master narrative or script. Unlike non-LGBTQ parents, there are plenty of stories and narratives to play off of as you parent. The same is not true for us LGBTQ parents.  I still think the same is true today as I grow older: with the paucity of stories of being an LGBTQ parent, we are still making this stuff up as we grow up with our children and now grandchildren.  We fly by the seat of our pants and are improvising each and every day.  Sometimes it works, other days, it bombs. But we smile, laugh, and move on. Someday I may write about being a grandpa who is gay. Oy!


Thursday, June 12, 2014

Hallmark Loves Us Gay Dads!

I read on both towleroad and queerty that Hallmark cards loves us gay dads!  This is a hoot and a half.  I remember when coming out to the kids, and there were no cards for gay dads, let alone lesbian moms, etc. My kids took the creative tact and made their own cards, which was just super. But for the industry that knows how to read the cultural tea leaves, this is huge.

Welcome, Hallmark, to life!

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