Wednesday, March 23, 2016

NC causes me pain as a man who is gay

From afar I am watching the "going-ons" in NC, and I am sad and mad.  Having lived in NC for 25 years "plus", I came to love the state for its then-progressive ways, the culture of storytelling, food, and the geography.  Some of my family members still live in NC.

Today, I am angry in the way that the hate-filled NC Republican and apparently some Democratic legislators are voting in the House in overturning Charlotte's action to practice non-discrimination when it comes to LGBTQ people. Currently the bill is before the NC Senate.  I know the outcome already.

From sitting in my office in Portland, OR, with a unisex bathroom or 2 down the hall, the actions of the legislature is hate-filled and seems crazy.  Living in a state (OR) in which there is a more libertarian "live and let live" attitude, this incredible move to push NC backwards seems crazy.  But, as one of my clergy friends said in a sermon years ago, "When the 1950s come back, NC will be all set for its return."



Friday, March 11, 2016

Working on the only gay Presbyterian pastor in the state of OR article

Still working on the article...going to download it here first...stay tuned!


Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Meeting More and More Gay Dads in Portland, OR

There is the presence of more gay dads in Portland than there were in NC.  While I knew some closeted gay dads in the Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill, I'm still overwhelmed (in a good way) by hearing the story of dads who are gay with kids spoken so, well, openly in Portland, OR.

It is all good.

Pax, B

Friday, December 18, 2015

One Year Anniversary!

It has been one year since I left NC and moved to my new/old home state of OR.  I was actually born in Brooklyn, NY and raised from ages 4-12 in Maplewood, NJ, but teenage years were in Portland and Beaverton.

After 25 years in Chapel Hill, it is good to be back in OR.  Though I miss friends and family, the land, the culture, of NC, I do not miss the politics and the sense of "stickiness" in my life. I felt stuck and unable to grow any further.  My sense of well-being was not advancing but slowing down mightily.

Oregon has been a place where I have thrived because of family, friends, the work I do, the people I work with, and the surrounding culture, both land and the arts.

Thankful, I am, for the good people of St. Andrew's Presbyterian Church.  While I am still the only out gay Presbyterian pastor in the state of OR, it is not so lonely here with great people, and a good group of gay men I hang out with from time to time.

Living a life of gratitude.



Family Tree Happiness! A Cousin (once removed/second) is Gay!

Silly feelings.

Caught up in a flood of feelings.

For the longest time, I thought I was the only gay person in my mom's or dad's family tree.  None of my cousins on my mom's side of the family tree-Ferguson-were out and gay.  They were either hiding or they are conservative and heterosexual for the most part.  On my dad's side of the family, he had no sisters and brothers, so that was that.

I just discovered today that my mom's brother's daughter's (my cousin's) son is gay.  Out and gay.  Fiercely so.

There are two (2) of us in this crazy tree.

It is biological, after all.

Neither of my kids are gay.

But a second cousin IS gay.

Of course, no one talked about it openly.  My second cousin was told by his mom, my first cousin, that I'm gay. She, my first cousin, has never talked to me about being gay.  Heck: none of my cousins or aunts or uncles on my mom's side of the family have talked to me about being gay or if I'm gay or happy being gay get the point.

A second cousin is gay. And out.




Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Kim Davis, the Pope, and Me

As a Presbyterian pastor who is gay, and a dad, let me quickly say that I am not surprised at all about the latest dust up regarding this Pope meeting with Kim Davis, of Rowan County, KY fame, who denies same sex couples marriage licenses whenever possible.

The reason I'm not surprised?  The Pope, like his predecessors, is conservative and a traditionalist.  He understands that marriage is only between a man and woman, for the purpose of pro-creation.  It is natural law theology/philosophy, made part of the canon thanks to St. Aquinas.

His comment, "Who am I to judge?" was just a nicer packaging of the same old trope.

It is what it is.

And I'm not a Roman Catholic.



Thursday, May 21, 2015

No Conversion Therapy/Reparative Therapy in OR

Again: a difference between NC and OR.

In OR, Gov. Kate Brown signed legislature that banned conversion or reparative therapy in the state of OR.

In NC, the legislature is still trying to find ways to restrict the rights of LGBTQ people from marrying.

What a difference.

Here's the article about the state government's actions: