First: As a religious leader of a Church that has a history of child abuse going back generations, the last person who should be offering ideas about "discipline" is from the Catholic Church.
Second: who needs to be disciplined? For what? Gay adults are not children.
Third: before you try to take the speck out of someone's eye, take the log out of your own. Though my being gay is not a "speck" issue.
This is what the Bishop of IL said:
“To be opposed to the redefinition of marriage and to be opposed to
things that are sinful, that’s actually a very loving thing,” he
continued. “Perhaps it’s the permissiveness of our society that people
think that if you don’t get what you want that you’re somehow being
hateful, if you don’t give them what they want. But sometimes, like any
good parent will tell you, that sometimes you have to discipline your
child, sometimes you have to say no. And sometimes, you even have to
But to “punish” gay families is actually quite loving,
according to Paprocki. “And when a parent does those things towards
their children,” he concluded, “they’re actually being very loving by
correcting them and showing them the right way to do things.”
A few days ago, Blue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS) of NC said that those same sex couples who had signed on with them a few days earlier (since Jan. 1, 2014) would not be recognized. They must re-submit their application as individuals, even though they had previously enrolled as a couple, made possible through the market place of the Affordable Care Act (ACA)
Now: BCBS has reversed course today: they will welcome same sex couples who apply for health care through the market place of the ACA.
They know where the power is going to be in the coming future: with same sex couples being "normalized" into this country's narrative.
Today, I was surprised by a greeting card at Flyleaf Bookstore in Chapel Hill! It simply said "Mr. and Mr." or "Mr. & Mr."
The reason I was surprised is because I usually see these cards at boutique bookstores that have lots of LGBTQ cards. But this card was amid other "normal" greeting cards.
While the laws of NC are prohibitive--including Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC saying they will not provide insurance for same sex couples--there are pockets of sunshine in the gray days of this state's existence.
It is hard to watch Indiana go down a path of wasting money for a constitutional amendment (state) that will ultimately be overturned by the judges who read the 14th amendment and the constitutional right of "equal protection under the law." The loss of DOMA will lead to full(er) equality, legally. As UT and OK can tell IN (and NC), this is a foolish, emotional, culturally silly move. It may bring short term joy, but makes no sense long term.
As a gay dad, it just is a pain in the neck to read. I hurt. I cringe. I want to fight.
The work of justice is before us. This is a marathon. Civil rights, which encompasses equal rights, is to be the aim for ALL who are part of minority groups based on things we cannot change: sex, sexual orientation, race, age, ability/disability.
Indiana is wanting to join a club of loser states: amending its constitution to not allow civilization in re: marriage equality. This seems like a great waste of time and money: time, because there will be a struggle on both sides of this debate, with countless volunteer hours vying against each other; millions going to print shops and web services.
I'm in OR, and they're going to be working toward amending their constitution, again, after amending in 2004 with Bush-Cheney campaign wunderkind Rove made sure they outlawed marriage equality. A wedge issue is responsible. Now OR is moving forward, educating the many, with over 116,000 necessary to put this on the ballot. They are most likely going to win, though it will be costly. But the "mo" is on the side of civilization.
Indiana: make sure NC was the last to amend its constitution! Don't do it!
AZ: there is a legal challenge to the ban on same sex marriage in that state.
NM: Gov. Martinez (R) is not going to support legislation outlawing marriage equality.
While I live in the South (NC) in which there is a re-entrenchment of the old bigoted attitudes of the South circa 19th century and the Civil War, these states--where there is a progressive movement probably with the moving in of "northern liberals"--are moving forward.
I write this in OR. Right now, there are more people moving to OR, even with the lousy winter weather (gray here a lot though the sun was out the last few days), and more people moving OUT of NC, where there are fewer gray days. Better climatic weather in NC, I must say, but lousy, horrible, no good weather for marriage equality in NC.
Climate change time in NC.
Meanwhile, I'm enjoying Portland, OR, where people--same sex couples to be exact--walk hand in hand with each other.
AZ, NM, OR, CA, WA...a place to live and prosper...
Well, the U.S. Supreme Court has put a "hold" on marriage equality in Utah. No one seems surprised. Justice Sotomayor received the request, and now the justices have put a "hold" on marriage equality in Utah while the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals reviews the case...again.
Everyone who knows legal issues better than I do says "nothing to worry about," and that this is pro-forma.
This is a marathon! 900 lesbian and gay couples were issued marriage licenses. This "hold" reminds us exactly who are second class citizens.
This new year found my son Parker in Prague with his mom; my daughter Adrianne with her boyfriend Scott in Asheville (though they just arrived back from MA); and my mom in Portland, OR. Dean and I spent three weeks (give or take a day) in Waimea, HI, and are having a hard time believing it is coming to an end (got here on Dec. 16, 2013).
New adventures ahead in 2014. Ready for change...you?
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I am a dad, who happens to be gay, with two amazing young adult children who have taught me, my partner, and their mom what grace, faith, hope, and love are all about. I am also an ordained clergyperson in the Presbyterian Church (USA), involved in congregational life, sometimes preaching here and there, and an oblate of St. Benedict's Monastery in St. Joseph, MN. I taught at Duke Divinity School at Duke University for over a decade, and I currently teach at North Carolina Central University in Durham, NC. I teach Ethics, World Religions, and English. And I am the Director of a religious non-profit, "School of the Pilgrim" (www.schoolofthepilgrim.com), in which I take people on actual pilgrimages to break out of the religion of rush hour in order to find their inner spiritual path. I am also glad to work with and be an advocate with people living with disabilities in faith communities, who teach me more about life in all its wonders and quirks. Enjoy the blog! And for more information about the book ON BEING A GAY PARENT, go to www.onbeingagayparent.com. Email contact: email@example.com, and phone is 919-444-9111