This is a blog site dedicated to issues concerning LGBTQ parents and our children, and LGBTQ children in our families, touching on issues of family, faith, and the culture in which we live.
Friday, April 18, 2008
A Lesbian Couple Declared a Defacto Family
There was this tidbit from "The Irish Times," on queerty.com, regarding a lesbian couple who have a child, in which all the rights and privileges are extended to the couple with the child, with no rights to the man whose sperm helped create the child. In other words, the gay father who donated the sperm has no rights or privileges of guardianship or access rights of seeing or knowing the child. The child is the "exclusive property," shall we say, of the lesbian couple.
Said the judge: "Mr Justice Hedigan said there was nothing in Irish law to suggest that a family of two women and a child "has any lesser right to be recognised as a de facto family than a family composed of a man and a woman unmarried to each other". Click here for more.
As I've said on many occasions, we who are LGBT parents are pushing the envelope of what it means to be "family" in this modern/post-modern world.
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I am a dad, who happens to be gay, with two amazing young adult children who have taught me, my partner, and their mom what grace, faith, hope, and love are all about. I am also an ordained clergyperson in the Presbyterian Church (USA), involved in congregational life, sometimes preaching here and there, and an oblate of St. Benedict's Monastery in St. Joseph, MN. I taught at Duke Divinity School at Duke University for over a decade, and I currently teach at North Carolina Central University in Durham, NC. I teach Ethics, World Religions, and English. And I am the Director of a religious non-profit, "School of the Pilgrim" (www.schoolofthepilgrim.com), in which I take people on actual pilgrimages to break out of the religion of rush hour in order to find their inner spiritual path. I am also glad to work with and be an advocate with people living with disabilities in faith communities, who teach me more about life in all its wonders and quirks. Enjoy the blog! And for more information about the book ON BEING A GAY PARENT, go to www.onbeingagayparent.com. Email contact: firstname.lastname@example.org, and phone is 919-444-9111