At PSR, I remembered a term I had heard before but not used: a young man called himself a Colager, which is taken from the group, COLAGE, Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere. The young man kindly asked how my children had changed since I had come out publicly, realizing that as I came out of "the closet," so my children were now also out of the closet, in a very public manner.
At St. John's, we had a gathering of largely gay and lesbian parents, with a great discussion about the challenges we have all faced with being parents and parts of families in which our long term committed relationships are part of daily life. The discussion of when normalcy and the exceptionality of being a gay or lesbian couple breaks through was fascinating. On one hand, we who are in lesbian and gay committed relationships keep moving along, living life normally as out-people, but we are always surprised by the sudden road bump that emerges and jostles us in realizing how unique we still are in the American landscape.
Thanks to both groups for hosting a reading and signing of the book ON BEING A GAY PARENT!