On a recent trip to the small town of Hawi on the Big Island of
Hawaii, my partner and I were talking to the owner of a small gallery
about his partner who lived in Seattle while he ran the shop in Hawaii. Automatically, I assumed he meant his male partner, since that is the common usage of the term in North Carolina. Wrong assumption: he meant his female
partner. Once again, I was caught surprised because of my ingrained
assumptions about what one calls one’s same-sex significant other.
In a previous post, I wrote about what my children came to call my
partner after going through a long litany of names. They finally settled
on “stepdad,” though there are no formal, legal ties mandating this
name, role, or function; just apron strings from heart to heart, which
are stronger, anyway. Between us, in introducing each other in public
settings, Dean and I usually refer to each other as “partner,” as in
“this is my partner, Dean.” But even this name took some thought as
LGBTQ people in same-sex relationships don’t have the simple default of
“wife” or “husband” to grab from society’s repertoire of names.
So what are the choices?
Click here for some choices: http://www.parentsociety.com/todays-family/same-sex-parents/what-to-call-our-same-sex-relationships/
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