Tuesday, September 4, 2012

The Same Sex Parent Struggles with Anger and Hate

From my post on www.parentsociety.com:

Unlike many families with straight parents, same-sex parents live in a culture that exposes them to hate. While we who are same-sex parents are loved by our children — and grandchildren, if we are so fortunate — cherished by our parents, adored, perhaps, by extended families, and surrounded by a beloved community of friends and associates, nonetheless, we live in a society in which some people spout nothing but vitriol and hate. Not only do we, as same-sex parents, hear the words of hate and loathing, but so do our children, our grandchildren, and the children of our friends and associates. While I think my skin is tough enough to take the stones of hate thrown by slingshots of those who are scared of my family, there are days that I simply want to ask those who are constant in their words of hate to shut up.
This is nothing new, but there seems to be a rising volume of hate speech directed toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQ) people of late. I cannot imagine what it would be like to hear such hateful rhetoric if I were a young child whose parents were lesbian or gay.
GLAAD (Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), reports on statements made by such groups as the national Family Research Council (FRC) and their spokesperson Tony Perkins, along with Bryan Fischer of the American Family Association. For example, at the Oak Initiative Summit on the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t’ Tell (DADT), Tony Perkins said that gay activists are “intolerant, hateful, vile, spiteful and pawns being used by the Devil” (May 3, 2011). According to GLAAD, Bryan Fischer of the American Family Association claimed that homosexuality is a form of “domestic terrorism” (June 10, 2010). And Brian Brown of the National Organization for Marriage encourages parents to attend one of his “ex-gay” conferences as a way to “prevent your child from embracing this destructive way of life” (Feb. 6, 2012).
Read on: http://www.parentsociety.com/todays-family/same-sex-parents/the-same-sex-parent-struggle-to-overcome-anger-and-hate/

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